Happy New Year! 🙂
It’s a new year. I gave the blog a new look.
I had a great time with Chris and the family in Singapore. It was short trip but I got a lot done for him. Unfortunately, I do believe he has regressed a bit since I last saw him. He has started being more destructive and anti-social towards everyone. He would take bottles of shampoo and soap and pour their contents down the drain, destroyed the keys on his laptop and cut the strings on his guitar yet again. What is this? Why so destructive? He has nothing to play with now and therefore nothing to entertain himself with. He’s bored at home with just an xbox to play with perhaps some toys.
So, I got him several different presents for Christmas as I wanted to see what interests he had now. I gave him:
- a mini whiteboard and he seems to be using this quite a bit drawing lifts and toilets. Great!
- a light-up tambourine and he looked so happy with it. I heard from mum it’s broken now. Hmm..
- a plant for his room so he can water it as I thought he enjoyed horticulture at school. This was a mistake as he wants nothing to do with it!
- a room redecoration. I tried to emphasise on sensory items and lighting. He really likes clocks and chairs but he wasn’t excited about much else. He gave some things back to mum.
- the Madagascar Xbox game he’d been raving about for so long. He’s not stopped playing it since. That’s wonderful in a sense, but he hasn’t done anything else! Furthermore, when he gets frustrated with the game, he begins to self-harm, so much that he bled through his nose and only stopped hitting his head when I physically showed him the blood.
Here’s a recent paragraph from Shannon Des Roches Rosa, senior editor of TPGA:
“Sometimes aggression and self-injury happen because non-autistic people do not recognize or respect autistic ways of being. It may seem odd to outsiders for a person to constantly want to have a straw in their mouth, for instance, but holding that straw may be intensely soothing to that person and allow them to function in the world better. So if a person needs their environment just so, or needs to repeat phrases for reassurance, and they are not being disruptive … the humane option is to accommodate the autistic person’s preferences.”
Now, he dislikes going out on family trips. He seems to just enjoy his own company. I read that this isn’t so good for him. This is extremely difficult. Nothing we’ve done has managed to improve his mood. So I do believe, we need to think of new methods. We must constantly remind ourselves to put ourselves in his shoes. The constant question on my mind is – how do I improve Chris’s quality of life? I keep the above paragraph stored in memory but I’m running out of ideas on what I can do.
On a lighter note, he always loves Christmas and he absolutely enjoys present time. This year we also had dinner on the big wheel in Singapore. He loved it 🙂